Laura is 4 years, 2 months, and 5 days older than Jason. Over that time, I have forgotten a lot of the little details of her babyhood. I can’t definitively say when she started to crawl, cruise the furniture, or stand up by herself. I look through photos to remember, trying hard not to compare milestones between the kids.
Yet, when I find photos of the kids in a similar pose and age, the comparisons are unavoidable. The photos show me the differences between the kids. Their face shapes are different – Laura’s face round and chubby, Jason’s face oval and long. I was more dutiful putting a bib on Laura than on Jason. The photos also show the similarities. Their hair parts the same and has similar color and texture. Both kids have a tendency towards little scratches on their cheeks because I procrastinate on trimming their finger nails. Both are my Cheerios munching babies and fill my heart with expressionless feelings of love.